Finding Acceptance

Let’s Celebrate our Differences!

 

One thing I LOVED about my yoga teacher-training was that we were all so different, but there was absolutely NO Judgement.

We spoke about, investigated and celebrated these differences. This was the first time in my life that I felt completely, 100% accepted. Warts and all!

Even if you’re not in the game of becoming a yoga teacher, this is SO relevant to you too.

YOU are unique.

YOU are fascinating.

YOU are amazing!

I hope to convince you that you can notice and accept your uniqueness! To observe it with curiosity and without judgement.

AND you can honour your unique body and mind in ways that will bring the best out of you.

 

Observing without judgement

So, going back to my budding yoga-teacher friends.

Every day we would practice 1 1/2 hours of sweaty yoga together. We’d learn anatomy together, often identifying muscles and bones on each other. We’d eat meals together. We’d practice teaching yoga to each other. We’d sleep in shared rooms.

SO we learned A LOT about each other very quickly.

We quickly knew that some of us were naturally flexible, others were naturally strong. These two extremes are generally mutually-exclusive at the extreme end. So a very strong person tends to be less flexible, and vice versa.

Rather than feel ‘less-than’ others, we’d study and investigate how some poses were naturally easier for some of us, and then marvel at how the less bendy of us were so strong in arm-balance poses.

There was NO judgement. Just observation and interest.

We all knew that everyone had their own ‘super power’ and that these were wildly different from each other.

All of this introspection and comparison was in the name of learning about different bodies, because our future yoga students would all be different, and beautifully unique too!

Mind-body types

It wasn’t just out bodies that were different, but also our minds and personalities. We observed and marvelled at these differences too!

We were all learning Aryuveda, India’s traditional ‘life science’, and so applied what we learned on each other.

Aryuveda describes people to have different mind-body constitutions (Doshas): Vata, Pitta and Kapha (or a mix of 2 or all 3 of these).

 

In short:

  • Vata-types are light, airy, creative, but prone to overwhelm and anxiety
  • Pitta-types are fiery, strong and driven, but prone to frustration and bossiness
  • Kapha types are loving, grounded, and calm but prone to laziness and weight gain

(For a more in-depth description of this see my previous blog: Your Mind-Body type.)

 

Finding Acceptance

We all enjoyed identifying and discussing what Aryuvedic mind-body constitutions we had. We shared with each other the things we found helpful (balancing) and what was our kryptonite (what brought us out of balance).

This exercise brought us so much closer together. It helped us understand how to interact in the best way, and how to be accommodating of each others’ needs.

Everyone quickly realised I was very ‘Pitta’. So if I was a little bossy at times, they’d shrug it off because they knew that was my pitta-personality coming through.

Similarly, the Kapha types of the group loved chilling out on the sofas in the afternoons. So I wouldn’t be offended if they declined my offer of a long walk after class!

(I’d just find another Pitta to join me!)

We also understood that the Vata-types of our group (and yoga teachers are often Vata) reeeeally needed their rest in the weekends. As all that learning, movement and socialising quickly had an overwhelming effect on them.

All in all, we observed and respected our differences, without judgement.

This was the FIRST time in my life that I had such an experience, and it felt AMAZING.

After the 4 intense weeks together I had a whole new appreciation and acceptance of my own uniqueness and that of everyone else.

 

How can this help you?

Have you started thinking about how YOU are unique while reading this?

Undoubtedly, you will have a mind-body constitution that is 1, 2 or all 3 of Vata, Pitta and/or Kapha.

But I urge you to understand that one is not better than the others. They each bring amazing different ‘super-powers’ and well as some different tendencies to keep in check.

When you are aware of your underlying Dosha type (Vata, Pitta and/or Kapha), then you can recognise your strengths and also be more understanding and accepting of yourself when things don’t quite go to plan.

 

A personal example

Knowing that I am a mix of mostly Pitta (productive and fiery) and some Vata (light and airy), I value my creativity and willingness to work hard, yet I know that I am prone to stress, anxiety and snapping at loved-ones (getting a bit heated).

So, I try to avoid becoming frustrated by cooling myself down with a regular yoga practice and mindful breathing, and taking a pause before reacting to someone.

But when I do get heated, and trust me…. it happens, then I try to be forgiving to myself. (And of course, I apologise to whomever took the brunt of it!)

Yoga Homework!

I invite you to observe and study your own tendencies.

Don’t judge! Just observe, notice, be curious.

Try to identify your ‘super-powers’ and value them.

Then try to identify you ‘kryptonite’ and ways in which you could help yourself become a little more balanced.

(If you’re unsure what Dosha constitution you are, and what could bring you into balance, then read my previous blog that goes into more detail! Your Mind-Body Type).

Ps. Also do some yoga! 😜

I hope you enjoyed this mini blog. 🤓

I’d love to hear your views in comments below!

Jolanthe x

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Welcoming Spring

Spring is Here!

Has it been a long winter for you? It has for me! 🥴

The months of January and February always seem like loooong, daaaaaark months to me.

We are all different in how we adjust to the seasons. Some of us love the cozy winter, some love the sense of change in autumn, some love the freshness of spring, and some love the heat and energy of summer! (And of course most of us dislike some of these seasons too!)

FYI, I’m a Summer person (If you hadn’t guessed already)! That’s when I feel myself physically and mentally thriving.

What are you?

 

Warm and protected

In winter it’s normal to hunker down and put on warm, protective layers (both physically and mentally)!

Many of us do this by closing the curtains on the dark evenings, getting cozy on the sofa and watching something you love on the television.

Aryuveda, the yogic ‘life science’, describes winter as being a Kapha-heavy time. (See here for a previous blog describing the Aryuveda dosha types.)

So, don’t feel bad about having enjoyed the following over winter:

  • Heavy and warm food!
  • Lots of rest!
  • Being slow to change habits
  • Long evenings socialising inside with friends

These are Kapha qualities that we all indulge in a little more over the winter months.

However…. times are a-changing!

 

Time to shed that layer!

The turning point between winter and spring is here, the Spring Equinox.

With this change we can start to slowly open up and and shed these protective layers and become open to new, unexpected and wonderful opportunities!

In Aryuvedic-terms, this season is linked with Vata qualities. (Again, see here for a description of Vata).

This is a time of change, movement, fresh air and creativity!

But you may not feel like that now… (I certainly don’t yet!)

Once the daffodils start popping out of the ground and the cherry blossom is out, it’ll get you into that spring mood.

So, even if right now you feel tired, stuffy, inactive (maybe, like me, you’re ill…), take a moment to close your eyes and visualise all this new, fresh creative energy of spring, and welcome it into your body via your breath.

 

A little help to get you there…

To help you make this transition, I’ve created a special video class that focusses on the transition into spring. 🤗

In this class we focus on chest opening poses, and poses which give you a sense of lift and light.

It’s an uplifting yoga class! 🌿☀️

Follow this video class whenever you feel stuffy, weighed down and in need of some positivity!

 

How do I access this class?

If you are a Bendywife Yoga member, you can find it in the ‘Specials’ category.

Have a look at the preview now, and plan it in for later! 🤓

If you’re not part of the BendyTribe, I’d love to introduce you to it! Find out more about what I have to offer here.

 

I hope you enjoy this class!

Love,

Jolanthe x

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Your Mind-Body Type

YOUR mind-body type

Have you ever compared yourself to others, and wondered why you are so different?

Perhaps it’s frustrated you that others seem to eat whatever they like and don’t change shape…

Perhaps you find it strange that others don’t enjoy the same things as you. “Why wouldn’t they enjoy running? I just love it so much!” you might think.

 

Can you think of other examples?

 

Wisdom from Aryuveda

Aryuveda is an ancient science of living from India which is closely linked with the yoga tradition. I absolutely love Aryuveda, as it makes intuitive sense to me.

This philosophy sees everyone as having a ‘Dosha’ which is the expression of their ‘mind-body type’.

There are three Doshas, and most people are a combination of two of these, with one Dosha being more dominant.

 

The Three Doshas are:

Can you see which one/two describes you?

– Vata: People who are creative, who swing from high energy to low energy quickly, who have a tendency to be slim, who sometimes forget to eat but really would benefit from eating regularly. When out of balance, Vata types have a tendency towards feeling anxious, too much weight loss, and insomnia.

– Pitta: People who are a little fiery, strong minded, determined and goal focussed. They tend to gain muscle quickly, but have a tendency to get over heated, in both body and in mind (think: hangry!). Pitta types get things done! But when out of balance, Pitta types can be a little over-bearing, and suffer from inflammatory skin issues.

– Kapha: People who are very grounded, warm and loving. This is the ‘mother-‘ or ‘father-earth’ person who you WANT to have as a best friend. Physically, Kapha types naturally hold a little more weight, and don’t naturally have a strong drive to do vigorous exercise. They generally have a very stable mental-state. When out of balance, Kapha types are prone to weight gain, extreme stubbornness and depression.

 

Balancing YOUR dosha

You may have guessed it already, but different doshas/ combinations of doshas will benefit from different lifestyle behaviours.

The Aryuvedic philosophy says that:

– Like attracts like, and

– Opposites create balance

 

For Example…

Creative Vata types

You’ll love a spontaneous lifestyle, the highs and lows of travelling and partying, and energetic exercise classes such as Zumba! You will love cold and light foods and beverages.

However, if you find yourself out of balance (burned out/anxious/inability to focus) then choosing the opposite will probably help you. For example, working on a predictable structure in your week, practicing a slower form of yoga, eating warm and wholesome foods.

Fiery Pitta types

You will be attracted to high intensity exercise like running or cross-fit and you’ll love eating curries! You’ll be go, go, go ALL the time!

However, if you find yourself a little out of balance (burned out/inflamed skin/uncontrolled frustration or anger), then choosing the opposite will probably help you. For example, choosing a more relaxing/mellow type of exercise, and cooling foods.

Grounded Kapha types

You’ll be attracted to a slow and steady life. You loooove your lie-ins, taking your time to socialise with loved ones and friends, and eating delicious and heavy foods.

However, if you find yourself a little out of balance (feeling unmotivated to make necessary changes, difficult to get out of bed, unwanted weight gain), then choosing the opposite will probably help you. For example, starting more vigorous exercise, getting up earlier and (I’m sorry to say) a bit of fasting…

 

How it sets us free…

What I LOVE about finding your own mind-body type is that you have permission to stop comparing yourself with others!

If you are a Kapha type and you compare yourself with a Vata type, then you are comparing apples and oranges. You were born different, and that’s OK!

We should each listen to OUR OWN bodies/minds and find the best ways to balance ourselves out so that we feel our happiest, healthiest selves.

For example; for some this will require doing LESS intense exercise, and for some it will require some MORE intense exercise.

 

You have a SUPER power

What get’s me so excited about this philosophy is the thought that every dosha has its own super power. And that’s so true for us all!

You Vata types are the creatives that bring us art and music!

You Pitta types are the fire-crackers that bring us cross-fit and meet deadlines!

You Kapha types are the grounded souls that keep it together when everyone els falls apart!

 

So, What are you?

Have you had an “Aha!” moment while reading this?

If you have realised which Dosha you have, or which two Doshas you have in combination, then why not see whether you feel in balance.

Using your new knowledge of what might suit your mind-body type, or what might help you get back to balance, you can choose a yoga practice!

Let’s open the diary, and plan in your next practice…

😁👇

Thank you for reading my blog!

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Love,

Jolanthe Xx

Strength, Posture & Mindfulness

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I enjoy getting to know each and every new yoga student – so can’t wait to meet you!

Love, Jolanthe x